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“Why Didn’t Anybody Do Anything???” in the Steubenville, Ohio, Town Where High School Students Allegedly Gang-Raped an Unconscious 16-Year-Old

“Why didn’t anybody do anything???” I will tell you why…nobody taught those teens what to do!

Why didn’t anybody do anything???”

This is the comment I keep hearing people say of the bystanders who watched, took pictures and videotaped football players gang rape a teenage girl.  I will tell you why…nobody taught those teens what to do!

If you want to be good at something, you need to practice it

If you want your kids to be good at something, first you have to teach them, and then provide a time and a place to practice.  Doesn’t that hold true for most everything?  What about sports?  How about basketball? 

Let’s look at “how” to teach a child to play basketball.  First you need a coach to teach your children the fundamentals of the game.  A coach is someone who has a lot of expertise and experience with the sport.  They know the rules of the game.  Once the coach has taught the children the skills, they practice at home in their driveway or at the park.  Typically, a parent or mentor will work one on one with a child to learn and perfect the fundamentals.  Once they have a handle on the skills, children attend basketball practice.  This allows each player to practice (or role play) the fundamentals of the game with an “expert”, someone who has a lot of experience with various basketball scenarios.  Basketball practice allows the players to interact with other players.   The coach has them work on strategies of how and when to use the skills they have learned.  In my community, I see adults who are constantly working with and supporting these children in their quest to be good at basketball.  Finally, we test these players in the form of a game against another team.  A game is essentially the platform the coach uses to measure how each players has understood the skills of the game, what to do in various possible scenarios, as well as their ability to work with others.  The game gives the coach the opportunity to understand what each player, as well as the team as a whole needs to work on.

How often have the students in the Steubenville, Ohio school district been taught or practiced what to do when the see bullying or cyber bullying?

Why would good character or knowing what to do in a scary situation be any different? Adults can’t always predict what will happen and situations kids will encounter.  But, we can teach kids the specifics of what it takes to have good character or what to do when someone is in trouble.  What was the commitment of the school and the community to teach their kids about bullying, cyber bullying and character?

Who is experienced enough to teach about cyber bullying and good character in the 21st century?

In the 21st Century, almost every high schooler and middle schooler has a cell phone.  Cell phones have picture taking capabilities, as well as built in videotaping technology. Generation Text Online teaches kids how this can be extremely dangerous and the consequences of posting these pictures and videos on a web site such as YouTube or Facebook.

Generation Text Online guides your students in role play, using real life examples. Our programs are based on solutions-ways to stop cyber bullying. Our focus is not just the single bystander… but a group of bystanders. We empower kids to do the right thing by teaching them the fundamentals of right and wrong in the 21st century, we allow them to interact with us and provide ongoing Core Curriculum lesson plans so they can practice.  We challenge them to take back their school and be proud of whom they are.

Are you a school administrator in Ohio?

You have the opportunity to protect your school from a tragedy like this.  You have the power to bring in a program that works with your student body to help them know what to do in a situation where they know there is something wrong.  You have the power to role play with your kids what to do when they are scared.  You have to power to teach Core Curriculum lesson plans that use real life examples and situations.  For more information regarding 21st Century Student lessons plans, email Jill.Brown@GenerationTextOnline.com or call 781-820-6629.–

Jill Brown

Generation Text Online

jill.brown@GenerationTextOnline.com

A place for kids to connect in a safe place…www.ItsMyLocker.com

Teresa K. January 12, 2013 at 04:26 am
Jason: Underage drinking is something we usually do TO OURSELVES. Rape is a crime done to us. I, for one, do not want to help set up any kind of defense for the rapists. ( "but we was drunked, occifer")
Murphy-Solon January 12, 2013 at 03:58 pm
Do you blame drunkedness on the parent's who are refusing to let their children speak to the police? Let's be clear, the problems in Stuebenville go we'll beyond the moral lapse of it's children.
Sa;;y January 12, 2013 at 06:55 pm
Jason - I agree with you. Alcohol is a factor. Yes, people make the choice to drink. However, it if wasn't so readily available and accepted ( it's nothing more than a legal drug) we wouldn't see some of the crimes we do.
Alcohol impairs people's judgement. But it doesn't excuse them for bad behavior. Look at Kent. We keep adding bars to downtown like we don't have enough. And then we say don't drink and drive or get too drunk that you get a disorderly conduct. Drink responsibly..... what does that mean? It impairs you. How is that responsible? Sorry for the rant. :)
Mary January 12, 2013 at 11:07 pm
"Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny."
Patch reader January 13, 2013 at 05:58 pm
"Why didn’t anybody do anything???”
Pure and simple. Small town peer pressure. If someone from the outside had witnessed this, it wouldn't have been kept secret.
Ed Fisher January 13, 2013 at 06:31 pm
It seems to me that we're not raising boys to be men anymore. My Dad raised me with the conviction that it is my responsibility as a man to always hold women in the highest regard, and that a mans' place in this world is to keep women above us, safe from harm. It's just old-fashioned proper values. What kind of young people are these that we see in this video ? Not those with any sort of proper direction in their upbringing. I place the blame squarely on the heads of the parents. They are abject failures in raising these young boys properly.
Murphy-Solon January 13, 2013 at 08:55 pm
Well said Ed F.
Chris (Kit) Myers January 13, 2013 at 09:20 pm
We in Kent are fortunate that all the Roosevent boys and girls, and their parents, are lofty examples of integrity and moral purity, and that nothing like this could EVER happen in our fair city. Right? It's those disgraceful degenerates in Steubenville who give Ohio a bad name.
Jean Williams January 14, 2013 at 06:47 pm
this is what happens to kids when parents fear arrest for bringing out the belt or the wodden spoon
Murphy-Solon January 14, 2013 at 06:56 pm
The belt or the wooden spoon might be going a little too far. Kids are tape recorders. They'll adopt the value system they witness in their parental units. If the parents value the football program more than they do the victim, then it stands to reason that the children will follow suit.
James Murphy January 15, 2013 at 11:24 pm
I have to agree with Jean here , kids need to be taught at a early age the consequences of their crossing the line between right and wrong,
you see murphy what do you think prevents these same 16 year olds from putting their hands on the stove ,jumping off a bridge, running onto a busy highway
Murphy-Solon January 15, 2013 at 11:31 pm
A child who is taught to resolve issues with violence will grow up to resolve issues violently. A child can be taught integrity and morals without resorting to a belt. A child's behavior is a result of what he/she observes in their parents. A parent that resorts to corporal punishment is a failed parent who lacks the proper parenting skills.
Jean Williams January 15, 2013 at 11:53 pm
that is the biggest pile of PC garbage I have ever read, it is this type of thinking that has ruined this country, once kids learned they were above disipline they quit listening to adults (parents,teachers,police) now you are left with an entire generation that is left without morals and guidance because there was no reason to listen to the proper parenting skills
Jean Williams January 15, 2013 at 11:54 pm
exactly
Debbie S. January 15, 2013 at 11:57 pm
"An entire generation that is left without morals and guidance..." Wow - exaggerate much??
Debbie S. January 15, 2013 at 11:59 pm
James - if the only consequences come from the parent, what do you think happens when the parent isn't looking? My philosophy is to teach kids to do the right thing when no one is looking, because it's the right thing to do and out of respect for themselves.
Jean Williams January 16, 2013 at 12:24 am
well coming from someone like you Debbie,who just a few months ago stated that people deserve to lose access to the internet when they get a virus, your opinion means nothing to me
Debbie S. January 16, 2013 at 12:29 am
We can add "misrepresentation" to "exaggeration" when listing your skills. Guess you weren't spanked enough as a child for such egregious behavior.
Jean Williams January 16, 2013 at 01:32 am
Debbie S.
10:01 pm on Saturday, July 7, 2012 And if that's the case, they deserve to lose access to the internet (and get charged a ridiculously exorbitant fee for repair to boot).
Murphy-Solon January 16, 2013 at 01:45 am
It's foolish to think that discipline can only be achieved by way of corporal punishment. Myself, my siblings, my cousins and my friends were somehow able to learn integrity and ethics without corporal punishment. As usual, some on the Patch stray away from the blog in question. The blogger thought that the solution should come from the schools. I believe it's the parents responsibility. Now you're off on a tangent about corporal punishment. Jean, your aggression towards Debbie and myself speaks volumes about you. Some unhappy people will stop at nothing to spew their anger. Hint: Look inward if you really want to resolve your anger issues.
Debbie S. January 16, 2013 at 01:47 am
Good start on demonstrating your 21st century search skills, Jean
[or maybe you're James: "James Murphy also commented on “Why Didn’t Anybody Do Anything???” in the Steubenville, Ohio, Town Where High School Students Allegedly Gang-Raped an Unconscious 16-Year-Old. "Debbie S. 10:01 pm on Saturday, July 7, 2012 And if that's the case, they deserve to lose access to the internet (and get charged a ridiculously exorbitant fee for repair to boot)." But it seems THAT comment was deleted!] Now add the rest of the context and you'll be in business. (And thanks for the laughs tonight, JeanJames!)
Jean Williams January 16, 2013 at 03:40 am
murphy I also think it is the parents job to teach their children right from wrong, its great that you and your siblings listened and learned the guidence given by your parents, but just because you grew up with morals does not mean every other child will follow your same path without extra help
Jean Williams January 16, 2013 at 03:42 am
debbie are you now saying that I am having a discussion with myself ???
Murphy-Solon January 16, 2013 at 09:34 am
Jean, I wish not to believe that you truly think the best way for a parent to teach a child that violence against women is wrong is by perpetrating multiple acts acts of violence against said child. I believe good parenting is best achieved by leading by example. Don't get me wrong, I'm a big believer in discipline as long as that discipline promotes acceptable behavior.
Timothy D January 16, 2013 at 01:37 pm
Kent State University and their newspaper The Daily Kent Stater are censoring commentary on the issue that Charlie Keenan will be receiving a full scholarship to the university next fall. Look's like they are bowing to pressure from Keenan and Hanlin's attorney, even though part of the rape took place at his home. Maybe Hanlin just made a big fat donation to the school. Seems like your entitled, spoiled, criminal, sexual offending children can do as they please as long as you have the money to cover it up, like Hanlin does. Just like she shielding him from prosecution in this case and also in the case of the vandalism at the Steubenville golf course Charlie Keenan partook in. They even paid for the damages with school booster fundraiser money.
Murphy-Solon January 16, 2013 at 01:46 pm
Excellent info Timothy D. That is why I say Jill Brown's blog about programs that teach children right from wrong, well intended as she might be, falls woefully short in addressing the real problem in our society. The adults have endorsed this type of behavior by their actions.
James Murphy January 17, 2013 at 08:04 pm
they should just put them in a timeout and then give them a hug, then they will but on the right path from that point on
Ed Fisher January 17, 2013 at 11:24 pm
When I was about 10 or 11, playing at a new house construction site, I threw a dirt clod and hit a neighbor girl just below her eye. Made a cut and bled. She went running home crying. My Pop marched my sorry behind to her house, where I apologized to her and her parents, ( so did he ) then made me do chores for her Mom and Dad for the next 2 weeks ( a lifetime to a kid ). Good, solid parenting. Taking responsibility for ones actions. My Dad never beat me. He taught me. There's not enough parents teaching their kids what's right.
tom m January 18, 2013 at 09:24 pm
Well Ed that was good parenting skills at work .......today they just call their lawyers or get out their checkbook
Phyllis Stager February 7, 2013 at 03:44 pm
Very well said, Murphy! Kudos!

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