V-Day is About More Than Valentines

Romance isn't the only option for Valentine's Day. Dance...and remind the world that 1 in 3 women on the planet will be raped or beaten in her lifetime.

Hype around Valentine’s Day — what to wear, where to go, gifts to give — has just begun. If there’s no valentine in your life right now, you may be sick of the buzz already.  Don’t get mad, get a plan.

Best option: Focus on someone other than yourself. February 14 is also V-Day, a global day of activism to end violence against women and girls. Launched 15 years ago by playwright Eve Ensler (The Vagina Monologues), the effort involves activists–including women like you– in 160 countries. The website OneBillionRising.com offers all you need to create your own event or find one that’s already planned near you. (John Carroll U., perhaps?)

If you do sign up, what will you have to do on Valentine’s Day? Besides paying attention to premieres of related films and ads, the big clue is in the V-Day slogan: “One in 3 women on the planet will be raped or beaten in her lifetime. One billion women violated is an atrocity. One billion women dancing is a revolution.” Yep. You’ll need to dance. Shake your moneymaker to remind the world it is, and will forever be, yours, and you want to keep it safe. Ms. Ensler explains,

“One Billion Rising is an appreciation, amplification and an escalation.  When One Billion bodies rise and dance on 14 February 2013, we will join in solidarity, purpose and energy and shake the world into a new consciousness. Dancing insists we take up space. It has no set direction but we go there together. It’s dangerous, joyous, sexual, holy, disruptive.  It breaks the rules. It can happen anywhere at anytime with anyone and everyone. It’s free. No corporation can control it. It joins us and pushes us to go further. It’s contagious and it spreads quickly. It’s of the body. It’s transcendent.”

Valentine’s Day falls on a Thursday this year, a worknight for most of us. If it’s ‘just another night’ at home alone, you can still support the V-Day campaign by sharing critical data on Facebook and Twitter.

Otherwise, you can always spend the evening hooking up with friends, but do it for laughs, not man-bashing. You’ll probably want to get together at someone’s house, or yours, because every eating establishment from white tablecloths to rib joints will be full of couples. Get your carry-out fare early.

On TV, traditional choices won’t ignore the holiday, especially the sitcoms. Same old tropes: somebody’s really lonely, maybe the guy (Arrested DevelopmentThe Office); or the guys have dates but the girls don’t (Friends); or the women get in a catfight (Two & A Half Men); or the guy plans a spectacular date but something goes awry (Big Bang Theory).

Better to head for Redbox or Hulu. Or, OneBillionRising.

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James Murphy February 06, 2013 at 01:58 PM
One in 3 women on the planet will be raped or beaten in her lifetime. this is what you compare life and valentines day to . I find this entire blog insulting to humanity, We get it you hate life, men and kids.there is a very smart psychiatrist who also does a blog on the patch, you should talk to him !!! wait hes a man (you hate all men) you need to find a single, female, psychiatrist with no kids to talk to
michaelschwartz February 06, 2013 at 02:59 PM
ROFLMAO! James Murphy has comment of the year.
Chapman Mom February 06, 2013 at 03:26 PM
James Murphy also had a good comment the other day which looks like it was deleted
The Omnipotent Sponge - Soak it up! February 06, 2013 at 05:56 PM
Victims of domestic violence just love you. Thanks.
Kim L February 06, 2013 at 09:36 PM
Karen you are a very bitter and lonely person, your comments of "but do it for laughs, not man-bashing." shows your new found hatred of males, Also your praise of Eve Ensler fails to mention her most offensive line " If it was rape, It was good rape" If it was rape, it was good rape"
James Murphy February 06, 2013 at 10:25 PM
I think she just needs a hug <but she would probably claim she was assaulted >
Patch reader February 06, 2013 at 11:51 PM
Exactly WHAT did Wright say that prompted these malicious comments? Sheesh, if you don't like what she says then write your own column.
Karen Malone Wright February 07, 2013 at 01:16 AM
Perhaps your true argument is with V-Day founder Eve Ensler, who had the audacity to choose Valentine's Day to focus on the antithesis of love: violence. That's also the opposite of an insult to humanity, by the way. Your comments confused me, and my husband as well, who wondered why you were so quick to assume that I am single and made a deliberate choice not to have children. Neither is true. The more accurate conclusion is with neither sinister nor psychotic intent, my blog is for and about the one of every 5 American women without children, whether they chose that life or not. Selected posts are uploaded to Patch, and clearly, they're not your cup of tea. There are many others from which to choose.
Karen Malone Wright February 07, 2013 at 01:23 AM
You see a request NOT to "man-bash" as "hatred of males"? Hard to understand. P.S. Ms. Ensler's "most offensive line" was particularly offensive because it referred to female vs. female rape in early performances of a play ('The Vagina Monologues') that depicted male vs. female rape negatively. In the decade since, the scene has modified and the line omitted.
Karen Malone Wright February 07, 2013 at 01:25 AM
I'm unsure, too, except that I offer support and voice to the one-fifth of American women who don't have children. Thanks for your comment.
Kim L February 07, 2013 at 04:07 PM
Karen when you include in your post a statement of "One in 3 women on the planet will be raped or beaten in her lifetime." which, that is all it is just a statement with no proof to back it up no statistical evidence,where did that number come from ??? from a person who wrote a play about a woman on girl rape of a 13 year old. which ONLY because of the public outrage she changed her play, which makes her a hypocrite, and this is what you equate valentines day to, how sad for you!
Brian Touchette February 07, 2013 at 07:08 PM
The only issue I see with this article is the use of the term 'moneymaker' in reference to a woman's body. In this context, in particular, it seems very counter-intuitive.
Karen Malone Wright February 07, 2013 at 11:17 PM
Point taken. Thanks for the insight.
Karen Malone Wright February 07, 2013 at 11:27 PM
Forgive me for not noting: The United Nations is the source of the statistic that one in three women in the world will be raped or beaten in her lifetime. Whether it's 2/14 or any of 365 days a year, I'm glad people are raising awareness of this fact. http://www.unifem.org/attachments/products/312_book_complete_eng.pdf
Chapman Mom February 08, 2013 at 04:21 PM
Oh my, Karen this is a disgusting article You should be ashamed at yourself.


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