Want a Baby? How Much Do You Like Your Father-in-Law?

After learning of your husband's infertility, would you carry a child that was biologically fathered by your father-in-law?

Here's a headline guaranteed to catch the eye:


Except…the man may get the sperm, and the headlines, but it’s his wife who has the uterus.  I'm trying to imagine the stress and deep-thinking going on in her head. I have to imagine because she's not interviewed in the story.  Silly me. It's obviously all about the boys.

But, of course, it isn't.

How much of this mom-to-be's acceptance of this plan is based on pleasing her husband vs. her own desire for a child?  And, does she want to experience pregnancy so badly that she’s making a decision she might later regret? Certainly that would be the worst-case scenario, leading her to abuse the child with subtle or obvious attacks.

And, yes, Oprah introduced the world to a 61-year-old American woman who delivered her own grandchild.  But, that lady was implanted with an egg from her daughter’s womb that had been fertilized by her son-in-law.  

In this new story, the woman in The Netherlands — the one with the uterus — has apparently decided to carry a child whose “grandfather” is its biological father. Her husband will be her child’s biological half-brother.

 It’s not totally icky, but danged close.

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Jack Kelly March 31, 2012 at 07:35 PM
And this "criticism" from someone who doesn't know what capitalization is and uses ellipsis improperly (as a replacement for punctuation)? Not to mention does not know how to read and/or follow policies/rules. You're about as credible as Casey Anthony critiquing one's parenting skills.
Le'ah Keturah-Sarah Krzywkowski April 01, 2012 at 08:24 PM
Relating back to the blog post.... That is a sticky situation. I don't know exactly how I feel about it except to say that if the mother to be isn't happy with her choice, that could interfere with her ability to attach properly to the infant, and could also take it's toll on the health of the pregnancy.
Le'ah Keturah-Sarah Krzywkowski April 01, 2012 at 08:28 PM
Good point Jack. I was thinking the same thing.
Tiffany Jones April 03, 2012 at 04:30 PM
Icky to want a child that is genetically related to both spouses? Icky that the extended family is supportive enough to go this far to help a childless couple? Or icky that you would assume that the mother is somehow either being forced, or is making a bad decision? Icky that people would make such assumptions just because it is a choice they themselves wouldn't make, or perhaps have been fortunate enough to never have to contemplate!
Tiffany Jones April 03, 2012 at 10:18 PM
I can't help but wonder what America would look like if people stopped judging what others do in the bedroom (or elsewhere) to create a family. Everyone has a right to pursue their own happiness. Whether my happiness means spending thousands to adopt, spending thousands on infertility treatments, or spending thousands on birthing a child shouldn't concern anyone else. Also not all couples CAN legally adopt


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